Matt Barnes is opening up about the pain of losing his family—and his ex-fiancée Anansa Sims is making it clear that she’s not here for the narrative he’s sharing.
The former NBA star had a very public breakup with Anansa after she outed him in January for allegedly cheating on her with eight different women.
Now, Matt is reflecting on his actions and taking accountability—at least, from his point of view.
During a recent episode of his All The Smoke podcast with guest Jason Wilson, Matt got emotional as he admitted that his lack of emotional availability played a major role in the downfall of his relationship.
Through my actions, I literally just lost my family… I was the strong provider.
I wasn’t there emotionally. I wasn’t empathetic.
I wasn’t willing to share those emotions.
It wasn’t the emotions Matt was sharing that got him in trouble at home… 👀
He continued to share how unresolved trauma from his childhood affected him as an adult, including his inability to express emotions—even saying he hasn’t cried in nearly 30 years.
Although grown Matt feels like he has it all, little Matt is there more than I realize…
I don’t want to say I don’t know how to cry ‘cause I’ve cried before, but I haven’t cried in probably 30 years.
Jason responded with some deep insight, telling Matt that many men still view crying as weakness, when it’s really a necessary part of healing.
Peace is not the absence of chaos… It’s having a calm heart in the midst of those things.
Watch The Clip From All The Smoke Below
While fans were applauding Matt’s moment of vulnerability, Anansa Sims wasn’t here for it—and she made her feelings known in a now-deleted Instagram post.
Anansa Sims Responds To Matt Barnes’ Emotional Revelation
Anansa accused Matt of telling “half-truths” to the public while failing to show up for their children behind closed doors.
In the post, she expressed frustration that Matt was speaking about their personal life on social media without being fully honest about what really happened between them.
Here’s her full statement:
If you’re going to talk publicly about our personal business, tell the whole story.
Don’t post half truths about me and our past relationship to gain sympathy from the masses.
I’m in the trenches doing the hard work making sure all of our kids are ok.
You’ve made no effort to emotionally support all of our children through this traumatic transition you caused, but you’re willing to be ‘vulnerable’ for strangers on the gram for profit?
Please keep my name out of your mouth. Since I left, I’ve said nothing about you and you know there’s so much I could say about the man you truly were to me.
If you don’t have respect for yourself or for me, at least have respect for our children who follow you and see your posts.
Your post is triggering for the kids and I, while we’re in the midst of healing and rebuilding our lives.
We’re the ones who reaped all the damage you caused by your constant selfish, toxic choices.
You didn’t consider our kids in your actions before, please try to consider them now.
If you want to do some good, please don’t speak about me, go get consistent therapy and most importantly start building a relationship with God.
Peace & Blessings
Matt Barnes may be starting the work of emotional healing, but Anansa Sims made it clear—there’s still a lot of hurt to unpack.
From the alleged cheating to the emotional disconnect, this messy breakup is a reminder that accountability starts at home, not on social media.
What do you think, frens? Was Matt’s moment of clarity sincere, or does Anansa have every right to call him out?
Let’s talk about it in the comments. 👇🏽
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