Jesseca Dupart took to the streets of social media to address the chatter around her and Da Brat’s decision to choose a white sperm donor for their baby.
The couple recently did an interview with The Root and opened up about the challenges they faced trying to find a Black sperm donor for their baby.
They even documented the process on their hit reality TV show, “Brat Loves Judy.”
After going through the process of finding a donor, the ladies began with a few thousand candidates, but after considering things like genetics, their options quickly dwindled down to just 300 choices and only one of them was Black.
That’s when Da Brat joked, “And that [dude] looked like Jiminy Cricket. I was like, “I’m sorry but that wasn’t gonna be my choice.”
Brat went on to share that they picked a White, tall, and handsome donor.
Because we didn’t have a lot to choose from, he definitely wasn’t Black.
But I think we did a great job with picking.
He’s handsome, he’s tall and I think he’s going to look beautiful with my wife’s egg.
Da Brat’s quote about their donor quickly made headlines and the expectant couple drew a lot of criticism prompting Judy to take to social media to offer more clarity.
In a post on her Instagram page, Judy outlined 7 points that she wanted to make very clear regarding their journey in choosing a donor for their baby.
So, as a mother of 3 beautiful black kids, and even a black grand baby I want to CLARIFY S**T to avoid this STORYLINE from continuing that we choose our donor off of looks and that we didn’t want a black donor …… here’s some things you should know
1) WE HAD NO IDEA GOING INTO THIS THAT our chances of a black donor would be slim to none
2) that I was a carrier of so many disorders
3) that our window was SOOOO slim and such high risk cus of age and more
4) with my genetic testing I’m the carrier of 4 disorders, that reduced our chances of a black donor down to 1 person and that 1 person had very limited info/portfolio to judge on ….. including BACKGROUND
5) I’m honestly disappointed more than anything at the storyline but do understand the lack of knowledge on IVF in our community cus a lot of people don’t even realize all the things when it comes with the journey including LACK OF BLACK DONORS, genetic testing, age where most your eggs are gone, etc
6) the headlines are misleading but also my wife made a distasteful joke and now it’s attached to the headline and making it seem like we choose strictly off of looks and we didn’t at all attempt to find a black donor when in fact not only did we try but we also waited to see if more would pop up over time – but had to stay within the window that we had to choose. Furthermore, people think just cus u have money that ANYTHING is possible but no amount of money was Changing the cryobanks inventory
7) our baby was created with a HEALTHY baby first mindset once we learned all the things, was a hard decision and of course we didn’t want to add any other stigmas or anything to our child but we had SEVERELY limited options. Thanks to all the people supporting us on our journey and I truly hope this brings Awareness to more black men to donate.
See Jesseca Dupart’s original post below and watch the accompanying video.
This is none of my business, however, I wish Da Brat and Jesseca Dupart a safe and healthy pregnancy.
But, I do have a question for you. Why do you think there are so few Black men who donate sperm?
Let me know your thoughts in the comments below or join the convo on our socials. (Facebook, Instagram)
