Rasheeda and Kirk Frost have been through hell and high water and we’ve watched most of it play out every Monday night on VH1.

The “Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta” stars are now 20 years into their marriage and they recently chatted with Essence about how they have been able to survive the good, the bad, and the ugly of their relationship.

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One thing is for sure and two things are for certain: Rasheeda couldn’t care less about your opinions of her marriage and her choices to forgive Kirk’s dirty deeds.

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She told the magazine most of her critics “couldn’t walk in her shoes” and most of the women “haven’t been in a relationship for 5 minutes.”

Being on reality television, sometimes you don’t want to share because you’re embarrassed. But on some real shit, everybody’s life isn’t what they [pretend] it is on social media. I’ve met so many people who have been through the same thing and then it turns into a testimony. People say, “oh my God, you helped me make it through my situation.” It was hurtful, painful, and it was devastating. But at the end of the day, I feel like that’s what I was supposed to do. We were supposed to live our life transparently. That’s what we signed up for, and that’s what we did.

I’m going to be honest with you — a lot of times, people who speak on that could never wear my shoes. A lot of women haven’t even been in a relationship for five minutes, let alone 20 years. So you can’t speak on the decisions that I make. At the end of the day, it’s my life. And I never let anybody’s opinion sway me in a direction. All I did is pray and follow my heart. And if nobody likes it, don’t follow me and don’t leave any comments. Something you deal with might be something I wouldn’t deal with, but it’s not for me to tell you what to do.

Rasheeda also told Essence her husband is a changed man!

One reason our marriage has been able to continue is because he’s made a 360. I went through a real deep, dark period with it, and it wasn’t an easy thing for me.

I haven’t always been perfect and neither has he. We’ve been through our share of a lot of different things, but you’re either going to fight or you’re going to let it go. That’s just the end of it. We fought for ours.

Read the full interview at Essence.com!

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