The singer and reality TV star opened up about her divorce from Vince Herbert, her new Nigerian man, being a victim of sexual abuse and being sex-shamed by Iyanla Vanzant.
I’ve highlighted a few quotes below:
On her new man:
I met him at a friend’s birthday party. Whew! Hallelujah!
He’s so fine – I can’t take it sometimes. It’s like a whole snack – a Lunchable!
He lives in L.A….he’s originally from Nigeria. He lived here (New York) for a while.
He went to Harvard Business School. He’s super smart. He’s so smart. I’m so proud of him – he’s so amazing and so kind.
And he’s saved!
Tamar went on to say they have been dating for about three months and she’s “very much in love.”
She also added that she would “love to have some little beautiful African children.”
On her divorce from Vince:
I was not willing to negotiate my happiness anymore for any circumstances…under any circumstances.
I love Vince. He is my family member and just like with family sometimes you kinda gotta like know when to draw the line.
I wanted to be happy and I felt like he deserved to be happy. We just shouldn’t be co-existing as a married couple.
I really wanted a relationship and really wanted to be married and not just like, ‘Oh, this is the person that everybody is used to so I gotta keep him around for everybody else.’
No. I just wasn’t happy.
Tamar also noted that Vince is no longer managing her career and she’s not sure if he’s managing her sister, Toni Braxton.
On being molested and sex-shamed by Iyanla Vanzant:
I’ve been battling myself on whether or not I was going to say what really happened because everyone wants you to be political.
But, I’m Tamar and I’m real. A lot of things happened to me in my childhood that I was too afraid to talk about or too ashamed to talk about.
But, the truth of the matter is that I have been molested by both sides of my family.
It’s nothing I ever talked about and I never thought that I would sit around a table with Iyanla (Vanzant), who’s here to talk about me and my sisters and their problems – and to bring that up to sex-shame me basically in front of everybody.
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Tamar also took to social media and shared:
Today Wendy asked me what happened at my sisters meeting and why did I walk out. Since someone there decided that they would ask me about something so private, so embarrassing, so secretive in front of EVERYONE that was there, I felt like my life was flashing before my eyes and IMMEDIATELY started to cry. Not because someone decided to allow someone else to tell MY SECRET, not because I was asked if it were True in front of a hundred strangers, but because once again my right to choose was taken from me all over again. I decided to Tell Wendy and the world MY secret, MYSELF that I have been a victim of abuse not once, twice, ten, but multiple times by multiple “family members” I’ve never told ANYONE other than Two people in my life and they both have held this close to them.
One Being the man that I am with now and EVERY, SINGLE DAY he says I’m so beautiful and my scars makes me even more attractive. I felt that because this has happened to me recently, that something HAD to be done about people who DID know and tried to make People embarrassed and ashamed about something that has happened to them!!! I never EVER again want anyone to feel so little and so small or even ashamed about something they had no control over.
I wanted to create a space where you can tell your OWN story with out anyone commenting or making you feel ashamed EVER again!! Go to and tell your story and empower yourself starting today! I wanted you to know that no matter how scarred you are… you are the PRETTIEST ? I love you all so much noneedTBshame.com
I’m glad Tamar is living in her truth and healing.
I will update the post with the official video as soon as it’s released.
Below is a clip of the Braxton sisters’ group therapy session with Iyanla Vanzant: