Dominique Gardner, R. Kelly‘s former “girlfriend” whose dramatic rescue from a Los Angeles hotel was featured on “Surviving R. Kelly” has broken her silence.
In an interview with the New Yorker, Dominique, now 26 and sporting two tattoos of R. Kelly’s face on her body, spoke in detail about her 9-year relationship with the singer.
Her account dispels many rumors about R. Kelly and confirms many others. I believe Dominique.
Read a few notable quotes from her candid interview below.
On “Surviving R. Kelly”:
What’s the point of seeing it when I lived it? People are using it as entertainment, when it wasn’t entertainment for me, you know?
On being brainwashed or a part of R. Kelly’s “cult”:
I loved him to death, you know what I’m sayin’? But he needs help. Who doesn’t need help?
I am not just about to spread lies about him.
I wouldn’t even say ‘mind games.’ It was just the fact that he tried to break me. I couldn’t be broken. He wanted that control over me, and I wouldn’t give him that power.
So, he figured, like, If I don’t give her food, she’ll come around. Nope. I’d rather die than come around and give you my soul.
On R. Kelly’s interview with Gayle King:
That’s not genuine. That’s the devil talking. Talking about ‘I’m not Lucifer.’ Yes, you are.
He is a giver, because when everything between me and him was good—oh, my God, it was, like, perfect. But, as soon as he gets mad, he turns into a person like, oh, what up, the new Rob.
On playing the victim:
At the end of the day, I am not playing victim. I done did some sh*t.” (Dominique admits she slept with two other men while dating R. Kelly)
Maybe he did hurt. Maybe he was in love with me. But I never gave him a fair chance.
On R. Kelly changing:
Atlanta is where he changed.
It was like something switched. Before that I used to go home on a regular basis. I was able to call my family. Then, all of a sudden, it was no.
On R. Kelly’s house rules:
I couldn’t even have a drink without his permission.
I’m a grown-ass woman, and I’ve gotta ask you if I want a drink? Everything you do, you have to ask him. That’s not living, that’s not normal.
I’ve got to ask to use the f**king bathroom? Are you serious? I’m about to pee on myself if I can’t get in contact with you. What the f**k is this?
On the consequences (beatings, spankings, being whipped with an extension cord) of disrespecting R. Kelly:
He grabbed me and he pulled my hair out, and I had, like, patches torn from my hair.
Every time I looked in his eyes, I knew he was sorry. Like, when he hit us, hit me, he was, like, he apologized.
Like, he said, ‘I done did some things, and I apologize for it.’ I’m, like, you did, you did! But enough was enough.
Yes, you did say, ‘I’m sorry, I’m sorry.’ O.K. But, then again, you do it again when sh*t don’t go your way.
On R. Kelly being a victim:
At the end of the day, he’s a victim, too, because he went through some sh*t, and people—they don’t understand.
People may disagree or hate me for what I’m saying. That’s the reason why I never wanted to come out. Because I’m not trying to defend him and what he has done, but, at the end of the day, you don’t understand what he’s been through, as a child.
I feel like he should be on house arrest in a studio, because, like I said, his music makes him get through the situations, what’s he going through. Jail time, no. He needs to have a twenty-four-hour therapist at his house.
Dominique Gardner’s message to R. Kelly:
You can stop the cycle. Just be honest. People don’t want you in jail.